Differences in age pose differences in life experience.
Society today has norms: going to college for high school graduates, saying “thank you” and “you’re welcome”, and especially dating or marrying someone your own age. Based on age and past experiences, people will make decisions to complement their comfort zone, but for many couples, this is not always the case. A relationship that has a large age gap between them means different life experiences. Granted, this may be able to teach each partner different views in life and show them to learn from each other mistakes, it may cause some controversy.
SOURCE: http://www.theguardian.com/
In an article entitled “Stephen Fry's engagement: what's wrong with age-gap relationships?”, Hannah Jane Parkinson, an English writer on pop culture, expresses her opinion on Stephen Fry’s engagement to Elliot Spencer, a comedian 30 years younger than him. From The Guardian, the latests in US news, world news, sports and opinion, Parkinson uses her own life experience to distinguish why girls are “into” older men, and why older men want to date younger girls.
She describes age differences in relationships to be a “perennial taboo” in which we avoid talking about so we do not feel uncomfortable. Many people, however, are able to look past an age difference in be with that person that they want to be with.
But, there are people who believe with a large age gap, you will have vastly different opinions, resulting in arguments, and the possibility of a breakup.
One point to make about age differences in relationships in the different life experiences each partner has seen. Some people find it difficult to connect with someone they want to be with if they are older because of the difference in life experiences. But what many people do not realize is that if you are dating someone 20 years older than you are, you may be able to not only have a happy relationship, but also be able to make certain decisions based on their experience. People date others who are somewhat similar to them, and have close to the same beliefs as them. If you have the same morals and beliefs as your partner, you might wind up making decisions to benefit you later in life, rather than make a regrettable decision that will damper your chances of being successful.
Many people are opposed to relationships with large age gaps, like Hugh Heffner and his Playboy Bunnies, but a difference in age experiences, like those of Spencer’s and Fry’s, will be able to make better decisions based on those decisions of their significant other even if they are not going to stay together forever. They will be able to figure out their ideal decisions based on those of their loved ones. Advice from a person you love is more likely to help you make decisions rather than someone in your family such as an older sister, or your mother.
Do opinions of others affect the decisions one makes in relationships?
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