Decisions, Decisions, and possibly Opinions.

People are entitled to express their opinions, but may wind up hurting someone in the process.

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Opinions are like buttholes, you know everyone's got one. Who's the best baseball team? What burger joint has the juiciest burgers? What the best college to go to? Everyone has different views on these questions, but some opinions of other can cause a decision to be made that is not exactly wanted.

Peter Zafirides, MD and a writer for KevinMD.com, today's web medical page, write about one of his patients who suffers from chronic depression and obsessive-compulsive disorder. He talks about how first of all, our emotions can play a part in our decision making. He recalls the "monkey trap" that Mary(his patient) describes is controlling her life. When something is handed to her, she cannot let go. In the monkey trap, the monkey is show a jar with food in it. Once the monkey stick his hand in the jar, the only way to grasp the food is to make a fist, and the fist it makes cannot fit through the top hole of the jar, causing the monkey to be forced to let go.

The monkey shows how we are attached to out decisions. It shows that we are determined that our decisions are the right decisions to make, until someone comes along and kills our self-esteem, our self-respect, and our values.

In a relationship, though, the values of the other become more important to us that our own values.
From PersonalityPage.com, a website about how our personalities and emotions can affect the way we think, and especially make decisions. One post on personality and relationships, and makes one good point on how opposites attract. We all want to experience someone that is different from us and want to hear opinions from everyone, not just from the same 3 people over and over and over again. But these opinions might be something that ruin our own. We want to make our significant other happy, and we can do this one way: by making their opinions our opinions. I have done it many times to the point when I don't even know what I'm thinking anymore. We practically succumb to the peer pressure of our significant other, and want to make them happy by giving up everything we believe in, just to keep that relationship going.

On the other hand, though, the author(who is not mentioned) makes the point that we are attracted to though who are mostly opposite from us, we tend to be attracted to those who have the same intentions for their lives as the other does. Some opinions may be the same, or easily changed, but some opinions can be changed to accommodate a better life for oneself from past experiences that are talked about and have opinions formed based on that experience, and are talked about to help one make the right decisions.

But some people make decisions based on theoretical situations imposed by wanting to make a decisions. The "what if's" always get to us, one way or another, and we try not to make our decisions based on the bad theoreticals, but what our opinions tell us about those theoreticals. People will always say "what if...what if...what if..." but these are solely imposed by an attempt by other to instill their opinions in you. You can listen but do not change your beliefs based on those of others, especially if they do not agree with your values, beliefs, and morals

Should we, in fact, begin relationships, if age and opinions of others are a large, but not detrimental, factor? In other words, does age and opinions affect our way of carrying out relationships?