I am a middle child. People make fun of middle children because they say they are the least loved of all the children. I went on to look up if birth order actually makes a difference in your personality and it does. This is called the Birth Order Effect.- An article by Joclyn Voo talks about psychologist Alfred Adler and his findings on birth order. He found that firstborn children, because the parents are also new parents, are more reliable, conscientious, driven, cautious, controlling, and achieving because the “parents are more attentive to them because they do not know what the baby is supposed to do”. First borns have to be the best. Middle Children are people pleasers, rebellious, has good people skills, and are peacemakers.
- Adler found that “middle children to make their mark among their peers, since parental attention is usually devoted to the beloved firstborn or baby of the family.” The youngest child is fun-loving, uncomplicated, manipulative, outgoing, attention-seeking,and Self-centered. Adler found that the “youngest children tend to be the most free-spirited due to their parents' increasingly laissez-faire attitude towards parenting the second (or third, or fourth, or fifth...) time around”.
I think that parts of this topic is true and parts of this not. In my family, the oldest is a leader and driven and reliable but is not cautious. He works hard but does not have to be the best. I am the middle child and I would like to believe that I have good people skills and I am a peacemaker but I am not rebellious. I do not break the rules very often. The youngest in my family is fun loving and uncomplicated but not self centered and manipulative. She also has the most freedom while my brother doesn't.
FUTURE RESEARCH: Does being an only child or twin make things different too? Are there different styles of parenting?
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