To Be, Or To Go With Your Gut Instinct.

You never know one-hundred percent what an outcome will be, but you only hope for the best.

Many people go with their gut: what college to go to, whether to go to that party your friend told you about at his house where his parents won't be home until the next morning. Or simply, a relationship.

All relationships are based on gut instincts, in my mind. You start liking someone on the gut instinct that they will be a great boyfriend/girlfriend, or that you may end up marrying them one day, or that they won't cheat on you. We date to marry, and not all relationships last forever, but how exactly do we find that someone we're supposed to be with for the rest of out lives, and even, possibly, procreate with? It's called going with your gut.

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Psychology Today, a website focused on how the brain works, published an article called Gut Almighty, showing the affects of gut instinct in different situations, including relationships. Carlin Flora, author of the article and staff member of Psychology Today for over 8 years, makes the statement that gut instincts can be good, but many decisions require much more "math" than just what you think you know. 

One sub-topic of her article, "A Strong Hunch can be The Beginning of a Beautiful Relationship" relates this gut feeling to starting a relationship. Flora states it is better to go with a gut instinct for a relationship, and not put "numeric values" on their aspects and qualities. "We've all heard the stories of couples who 'just knew' the moment they met that something serious was going to develop between them," states Flora. So how can this be related to those in relationships with large age gaps.

Every one knows dating man/woman who is 20 years older/younger than you are is still a tough subject for people to wrap their heads around. You're in two different parts of your lives, one of you has a career, the other still lives with their parents, and you want to tell that person you love them and they mean the world to you and you can't imagine your life without them but you fear that if someone you know will not except it finds out, you're both done for. Go with your gut instinct, live in the moment, love that person, and do what you can to keep the relationship going, because someday you may find your self fighting to stay with someone older than you, and not just by a year or two. You're entitled to live your life, whether on instinct or not. Go with your gut, for once in your life, and live for the one who is 20 or 30 or 50 years older than you. For all you know, they might love you back.